Anal Play: Preparing Your Booty

Anal Play: Preparing Your Booty

Slow and steady wins the race! And since we’re being real here, there’s no race when it comes to anal!


A well-prepared booty is a booty for anal play. Obviously, this isn’t the kind of sex we learnt about in Sex Ed, and we certainly weren’t taught how to prepare for it. Alas, this leaves us with anal guides in the form of Porn and experimentation, which if we’re being honest isn’t exactly well… honest. Let us cut out the guesswork, because anal should be enjoyable moments not painful memories.  

Let us show you what you need to prepare, in order for your next backdoor adventure to go ahead smoothly – as you can probably see, preparation is a non-negotiable for this kind of sexual play.



Invest In a Douche

And no, we’re not talking about your ex!

Now, before getting down to business, there are a few steps you can do to ensure things go as tip top as possible. I have one word for you, douche! With any backdoor play there is a little anxiety with how, well, “clean” things are back there. Douching before anal play helps relieve these worries, by, flushing out the anal cavity with water and ensuring everything is squeaky clean.

** Ensure not to douche too regularly or become dependant on the process for regular bowel movements. Douches should only be used beforehand as preparation**


Perfect Fit ErgoFlow Director Anal Douche


ErgoFlow Perfect Fit Director Anal Douche




Avoid Numbing Products

Numbing creams are a pain in the ass…

Although it may seem like a good idea at the time, unfortunately anal numbing creams/gels/serums are more trouble than they’re worth. Remember: pain is not a part of properly prepared anal! Not only that, but pain is an indicator that you might be: going too fast, need more lube, etc. So, when you use numbing creams, you aren’t able to identify these things, and may do damage that you don’t realise. Not fun.




Get Slippery!

Remember the anal cavity doesn’t self-lubricate, so you’re going to need to lube up! Any lubricant is better than no lubricant, however spending the time to look for the best lubricant for you is the key to maximising your experience!


Water-based Anal Lubricants

The best kinds of water-based lubricant for anal play tend to be thick, moisturising lubricants. This is because they add extra cushioning to the vigorousness, but also tend to stick to toys and skin better. Even better, water-based lubricant is compatible with all toy types, so you can play freely!


BeDaring Staff Pick:

Wicked Jelle Anal Lubricant


WICKED Anal Jelle


Silicone-based Anal Lubricants

My superior choice for anal play, silicone lubricant tends to not absorb into the skin as quickly, meaning more slickness, less applications, and more fun! However, it’s important to remember, “two silicones don’t make a right” and silicone lube is not the right match for your silicone anal toys.


BeDaring Staff Pick:

Pjur Analyse Me Anal Lubricant


Pjur Analyse Me Silicone



Oil-based Anal Lubricants

With the gift of giving, and giving, and giving, oil-based lubricants are great for those who don’t want to spend time reapplying. However, with great reward comes great risk, and women should be cautious of any excess going into the vaginal area, as the sugar compounds in many oil-based lubricants can contribute to infections. There are those that are specifically designed for vaginal intercourse (such as The Wildfire range), but make sure to do your research!




Get Your Body and Mind In The Mood

  • Start anal play after foreplay, sex, or when you’re already aroused. The biggest key to good anal is relaxing, and your body is most receptive to anal when already enjoying pleasure.
  • Try an orgasm first! Orgasms doing amazing work in stretching and elongating the booty muscle - making penetration much easier!
  • Try anal play on yourself first! Anal play can be daunting, and especially with a partner, so the first step to calming those nerves is to explore your own body. See what feels good, what you don’t like, and what you want to try. Go at your own pace but explore, explore, explore!



Final Thoughts

As you can see, there’s quite a few elements of preparation that go into mind-blowing booty play. These are to ensure that you play safely and enjoyably and are more prepared than you were for prom night dance (*cringes*). If you’re not sure what all the hype is about, check out our related blog: Anal Play - Why People Do The Big "It".

Should you have any queries or concerns please do not hesitate to contact our friendly professional staff on our Free Call number 1800 666 069.





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