Ball Gags

A ball gag is a BDSM accessory worn inside the mouth and secured behind the head using adjustable straps. It's a form of bondage gag that restricts speech, promotes submission, and heightens arousal. Often made of silicone, rubber, or leather, ball gags are used in consensual play to explore power dynamics, sensory control, and psychological restraint. Whether you're after a simple beginner gag or a decorative leather option, we offer a premium range tailored to all experience levels.

Ball gags are symbolic of surrender in the BDSM world. The act of being silenced—physically unable to speak—can intensify feelings of anticipation, obedience, and erotic focus. For Dominants, the visual of a submissive partner gagged and waiting can be incredibly arousing, while for submissives, it’s a chance to relinquish control and embrace vulnerability in a controlled, consensual setting.

In New Zealand, more couples are exploring restraint play as part of their pleasure routine, and gag toys like these are becoming essential for adventurous pairs looking to elevate their bedroom experiences.

Enhancing Power Dynamics

A ball gag signals erotic submission and control. It's a physical and visual tool of dominance that can deepen trust, surrender, and pleasure between partners. By removing verbal communication, power is exchanged in a thrilling, tangible way. For Dominants, it heightens command. For submissives, it’s a deliberate act of obedience and devotion.

Sensory Deprivation

By limiting speech, gags amplify every other sensation. Whether it's the brush of leather or the sting of a paddle, your body feels it all more intensely. The inability to respond verbally forces the wearer to focus entirely on touch, sound, and emotion—creating a deep, immersive erotic space where everything feels sharper and more intentional.

Arousal Through Control

Being gagged places the submissive in a heightened state of arousal. The inability to speak increases vulnerability and pleasure, especially in a safe, consensual space. The psychological thrill of being controlled—coupled with the physicality of the gag—stimulates both body and mind. It's not just about silence; it's about surrender, stimulation, and shared intensity.

Classic Ball Gags

The traditional BDSM gag with a solid ball—ideal for roleplay, impact scenes, or silence play. These are the most recognisable and widely used gags, perfect for couples wanting that iconic look and feel. Most feature silicone or rubber balls paired with adjustable leather or nylon straps for a secure fit. These are great for adding drama and dominance to your scene.

Breathable Gags

These gag toys feature vented balls for airflow, making them safer and more comfortable—especially for those new to restraint. Breathable gags typically have small holes through the centre of the ball, allowing the wearer to breathe through their mouth even when fully gagged. They’re especially popular among beginner gag users or for longer play sessions.

Bit Gags

Bit gags rest between the teeth and allow drooling or vocalisation. They're great for longer wear or players wanting less restriction. Inspired by equestrian tack, bit gags are perfect for roleplay scenarios and provide a unique visual that appeals to pony play enthusiasts or anyone who wants a less invasive gag experience.

O-Ring Gags

O-Rings keep the mouth open for teasing or accessibility. Ideal for kinksters exploring oral-centric BDSM scenes. These gags aren’t designed to silence the wearer but to allow unrestricted access—making them perfect for submission, training, or humiliation themes. They're also a favourite for Dominants who love control with a view.

Luxury Leather Gags

These premium bondage gags offer rich textures and quality craftsmanship—designed for comfort, durability, and aesthetic pleasure. Expect high-quality finishes, padded interiors, buckled straps, and beautifully designed hardware. These gags are investment pieces—ideal for those who want gear that looks as good as it feels.

Experience Level: Beginner vs. Advanced

If you’re just beginning, opt for a breathable gag or smaller-sized silicone gag. Seasoned players may explore larger sizes or more restrictive materials. Beginners in New Zealand often find comfort in starting with softer materials, smaller ball sizes, and open-mouth options until they become accustomed to the physical sensations and dynamics of gag play.

Material Preference

Silicone is non-porous and easy to clean. Leather adds a luxe, BDSM look. Choose rubber if you want a firmer, textured experience. Many NZ kinksters opt for vegan leather or silicone for their non-porous properties and ease of maintenance. Just make sure the material feels comfortable in the mouth and is free of strong tastes or odours.

Breathability & Comfort

Always prioritise comfort. Choose breathable styles for longer sessions or first-time use. Padded straps, vented balls, and adjustable fittings make all the difference. Gags that are too tight, too large, or poorly ventilated can distract from the play. Comfort leads to confidence—which leads to better scenes.

Size & Fit

Most gags range from 3.5cm to 5.5cm in diameter. Choose adjustable straps that sit snugly without chafing or slipping during play. If in doubt, go small and work your way up as confidence builds. Our online collection includes full sizing details so you can shop smart and find the perfect fit for your play preferences.

Establish Non-Verbal Safewords or Safe Signals

Use hand gestures or object drops as safewords, since speech isn’t possible while gagged. Always check in with your partner. Tap-outs, finger signals, or holding an item that can be dropped are common non-verbal safeword systems used by BDSM practitioners across New Zealand. Remember: communication is even more important when voices are removed from the equation.

Clean After Every Use

Use warm water and antibacterial soap for silicone or rubber gags. Wipe down leather with a damp cloth and let it dry fully. Leather conditioners and toy-specific cleaning sprays are highly recommended for maintaining your gear long-term. Hygiene is crucial—especially for anything going in your mouth—so treat your gear with care and respect.

Don’t Play While Congested or Intoxicated

Clear breathing is essential. Never use a gag if you’re ill, under the influence, or have nasal blockages. If you feel lightheaded, stop immediately and remove the gag. Keep water nearby, stay present, and never push past what feels safe.

Use Cleaning Sprays or Wipes

Our toy cleaners and wipes make cleaning your gag toys quick and convenient—perfect for post-play routines. Keep a bottle in your bedside drawer or dungeon kit and clean your toys before and after every use for total peace of mind.

Are ball gags safe for beginners?

Yes—especially breathable, small-sized gags designed for new users. Always pair your play with safety strategies and begin slowly. Most beginners in New Zealand start with vented silicone options for ease and comfort. Gradually increase intensity only once you’re confident and fully in tune with your partner.

Can I breathe through a ball gag?

Only through breathable gags or ring/bit styles. Never use solid gags without prior experience. If you have sinus issues or difficulty breathing through your nose, stick to breathable designs to ensure oxygen flow and minimise risk.

How do I clean a ball gag?

Clean silicone and rubber gags with soap and water. Leather needs a damp cloth and leather-safe cleaner. For extra hygiene, use antibacterial toy cleaner sprays available in our online store—ideal for keeping your gag toys fresh, clean, and play-ready.

What size gag should I choose?

Start small—3.5cm or under—and adjust based on comfort and control preferences. A smaller diameter ensures easier breathing and helps beginners get used to the feel without overwhelm. As you explore deeper dynamics, you can experiment with larger gags or dual-purpose restraint gear.