Couples’ Guide to Strap Ons: Enhancing Your Sexual Experience Together

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Couples’ Guide to Strap Ons: Enhancing Your Sexual Experience Together

Why Are More Couples Saying Yes to Strap Ons?

Strap ons aren’t just for one type of couple, one kind of kink, or one specific gender dynamic. They’re for anyone who wants to explore new sensations, switch up power roles, or deepen emotional and erotic intimacy. Whether you're curious about pegging, sharing penetration, or experimenting with role reversal, strap on sex opens doors—literally and figuratively.

At the heart of it all? Connection, confidence, and communication. And, of course, earth-shaking pleasure.

The Basics: What Is a Strap On, Exactly?

A strap on is a wearable harness designed to hold a dildo or other penetrative toy. The wearer straps it around their waist and hips (and sometimes thighs), allowing them to deliver thrusting, grinding, or teasing motions with control and intensity.

There are many types to explore, from beginner harness sets to high-end leather styles, double-ended toys, vibrating options, and even strapless models that use internal bulbs for stimulation.

Top Reasons Couples Use Strap Ons

Pegging & Prostate Play:
For cisgender male bodies, strap on play allows for P-spot (prostate) stimulation—a surefire way to unlock intense, full-body orgasms.

Role Reversal / Power Play:
Experience what it feels like to give instead of receive. Strap ons allow couples to play with dominance, submission, and gender expression safely and consensually.

Lesbian & Queer Couples:
For vulva-owners, strap ons offer new ways to explore penetrative sex, mutual control, and partnered intimacy.

Erectile Challenges / Support:
Strap ons can offer satisfying penetration without relying on erections—perfect for times when the body needs a little support.

Double Penetration & Fantasy Fulfilment:
Add a second toy or combine your strap on with another toy or penis for thrilling DP play.

Choosing the Right Strap On for You

For First-Timers:
Start with a beginner-friendly harness—one that’s soft, adjustable, and easy to wear. Pair it with a slim, body-safe dildo no longer than 15 cm. Silicone is ideal for its durability and hygienic properties.

Top Pick: Strap-On-Me Curious Harness – Stylish, comfortable, and beginner-approved.

For Pegging Play:
Look for a harness that allows for angle control and firm support, paired with a dildo that’s slim to medium girth with a curve for prostate targeting.

Don’t forget: A high-quality water-based lubricant is non-negotiable. And trust us—relaxation and foreplay are everything.

For Queer Couples / Shared Penetration:
Explore double-ended or strapless dildos like the Strap-On-Me Purple Strapless Strap-On or RealRock Double Penetrator Dildo—these allow for internal stimulation of the wearer and external penetration of the partner.

How to Use a Strap On: Step-by-Step Guide

Talk First: Discuss boundaries, fantasies, safe words, and positions. Communication makes everything sexier.
Gear Up: Adjust the harness to fit snugly around the hips. Some models include O-rings to secure the dildo—make sure everything is tight and aligned.
Foreplay Is Crucial: Oral, massage, kissing—don’t rush it. The more turned on you both are, the smoother the experience.
Add Lube – Generously: Apply a good quality water-based lubricant to the dildo and the receiving partner’s entrance. If you're exploring anal play, even more lube is your best friend.
Go Slow, Stay Present: Start with shallow thrusts and build gradually. Keep checking in. This isn’t a race—it’s a delicious, sensual journey.
Switch Roles If You Want: Once you’re comfortable, try switching who wears the harness. Exploring both sides of pleasure can create new levels of empathy and eroticism.

Best Positions for Strap On Sex

Missionary (Receiver on Bottom): Eye contact, closeness, and control.
Doggy Style: Deep thrusts and a dominant vibe.
Cowgirl / Reverse Cowgirl: Great if the receiver wants more control over depth and angle.
Side-Lying / Spoon: Intimate, relaxed, and great for beginners or slower sessions.

Top Strap On Recommendations

Strap-On-Me Curious Leatherette Harness – Metallic Green: Sleek, elegant, and ultra-adjustable. A luxe harness for stylish domination.
Hi-Basic Basic Vibrating Strap-on Dildo Harness:Perfect for first-time play—with vibration for extra stimulation.
R.G.B Harness and Purple Probe:Body-safe, flexible, and ideal for targeting the G-spot or P-spot.

Explore all options in our Strap Ons Collection.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is strap on sex only for gay or lesbian couples?

Absolutely not. Strap on play is for anyone—regardless of orientation or gender—who wants to explore new sensations.

Does it hurt the first time?

It shouldn’t. With proper lube, slow play, and communication, it should feel deeply pleasurable.

Do I need to use a condom on a strap on dildo?

Yes—especially if sharing between partners or switching between anal and vaginal play. Condoms also make cleanup easier.

How do I clean a strap on dildo?

Use a sex toy cleaner or mild soap and warm water. Let it air dry fully before storing.

Can you orgasm from strap on sex?

Yes! Whether through direct G-spot or prostate stimulation, clitoral rubbing, or the psychological thrill—strap on sex can absolutely lead to climax.

Final Thoughts: Trust, Talk, Try It

Using a strap on can transform your sex life—but only if you’re open to learning, laughing, and maybe a little lube-spilling along the way. Whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth, strap on play is a shared adventure—and the destination is connection, confidence, and orgasmic discovery.

Ready to explore?
Shop our strap on collection and discover the perfect fit for your fantasy.

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